My depression tends to get the best of me. I haven’t been feeling well lately, and not in the sense of, I have a cold or I’m sick. Depression takes a toll on your body. I just don’t feel well. I’m tired, I want to sleep, my body hurts, my head hurts. Along with that, I don’t want to do anything. I’m content just staring at a wall for a few hours. This gets in the way of things I want, or have to do. It’s a lot easier for me to convince my self to get up and do something that I need to do, but not the things I want to do. I want to write, but picking up the computer and typing, just seems like a feat. Yesterday I wanted to upload my photos from vacation from back in October, then I wanted to finally download lightroom and start editing them. I got as far and downloading the photos onto the computer. People uneducated about depression would see me as lazy. I’m not lazy but it’s hard to explain the lack of interest in anything sometimes. Now, what I’m feeling, the depression I have at this moment, isn’t anything compared to a few years ago, and I am thankfully, pretty aware of when I start feeling like this. My lows aren’t as low as they used to be, and I am grateful for that. I assume that my brain is healthier now than it was. Or a least that is the only thing that I can assume on why my depression doesn’t get as bad anymore. But it’s still a hindrance. I wish I had a normal brain.
When my depression kicks up, so does my paranoid thoughts and my anxiety. My mind wanders to the worst thoughts sometimes. For example, while sitting downstairs last night, watching a movie with my parents. Which it was an animated movie, nothing that would have put bad thoughts in my mind. My parents have nice couches that recline electronically. My dog likes to lay under the leg rests when they are up. And a random though popped into my head, if she was under one of the leg rests and someone put the let rest down, would she move, and if she didn’t move, would she at least make a loud enough noise to announce that part of her body was under the leg rest. That though quickly turned into, if she was a puppy, and she was all the way under there, would anyone even notice that she was caught, would it kill her? I then got very anxious and very sad, just thinking about that. I love my dog so much, she is my child, and I often have these terrible thoughts, what if this happened, and could this happen, then I get anxious and sad. To the point of almost crying. And as I’m having these thoughts I ask my self, why are you thinking about this, why is this upsetting you so much? It didn’t happen, and it probably wouldn’t, why are you so worried? I don’t know… I don’t know why my brain does this, but it happens all the time, and not just about my dog, it can be about the people I love the most, or my self. And it makes it hard to function, to go do things.
I had a really bad week at work, and I’m not sure if it contributed to the depression or not, maybe this was a long time coming. Depression is a slow spiral, and before I know it, I’m sitting in a room staring at a wall with no desire to do anything. That is the moment, most of the time, that I realize I’m back in a low. I don’t realize it right away, if I did, I would do something to stop it, if that is at all possible. Now that I notice it, I have to try to figure out where it came from, I have to talk to someone, my husband, my best friend, my blog. And if that doesn’t help, I’ll need to call my therapist. Because, even though I said my lows aren’t as low as they used to be, I still have a fear of going to that place again. To the place where self harm and suicide are an option. And I wish it was as easy as saying, “I’m not going to be depressed, I’m going to be happy.” Because I can put on that smile, and pretend I’m not depressed, but if I ignore it for long enough, I fall right back down into that hole, and I fought so hard to get out of that hole.
Last weekend, a family member told me they believed me about my sexual abuse. That moment felt so good, I don’t understand why I’m so depressed. I thought that moment would be a turning point, a new chapter. But as good as it felt to have someone believe me, it made me think of all the other people who don’t. It made me think about the terrible things they have said to and about me. Retelling my story opened up old wounds that I thought were healed, but they weren’t, they weren’t even scares yet, they were just scabs that got ripped off and I feel like they are bleeding again.
There is such a darkness inside of me that I hide, that I ignore exists. I just want it to go away.